I’m not sure if I’m misunderstanding or if the other commenters are misunderstanding. Sounds like you want to stop being enabled by other people.

The answer is you cut those people out. If they are actively encouraging bad behavior you have expressed the desire to change, then your only option is to minimize the amount of time you spend with the person. Martial Goldsmith has a really nice book on how to effectively change behavior called Triggers. (Yes the name of the book is terrible)

Or maybe I’m just extremely sleep deprived and not getting the joke.

Just use your I statements, they said

The I statements:

It’s hard to be humble and eat a little crow without trying to explain a little. Going overboard isn’t hard when you’re flustered. Happens. Watch for those face softens then stop. Nobody’s perfect.

„learned helplessness“